So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded (Hebrews 10:35).
Confidence, according to Dictionary.com, is the belief in oneself and one's powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance. When you have confidence, you can be assured that when you walk in a room, it shows; because, everyone around you will see the confidence in you. It's in the way you approach people, the way you speak, and the way you handle or take command of a conversation. It's not that you are overbearing. It's just the opposite. You can still be humble, but also display charisma. You have influence, and you are fun to be around.
You can tell the difference between a confident person and one who lacks assurance:
These are just a portion of what you will find between both types of individuals, but I think you get the drift. Which one are you? Do you have a hard time living up to the expectations of others that you find yourself being someone that you're not? Or are you comfortable in your own skin and it shows with each person you come in contact with?
Having confidence in your abilities not only shows your level of competency in any given area, it also shows that even during times of weakness or failure, you have staying power. Nothing easily makes you give up and quit. Not only that, the Bible also says that if you cast not away your confidence or your faith that God will see you through, everything that you've ever dreamed of achieving will eventually come to you (see Hebrews 10:35 above).
So what are some ways that you can look at improving your level of confidence, no matter the task or situation? Let's list them.
1. He made you 'STRONG'!
Knowing what you are already good at helps you to tackle those times when you may have failed, lowering your self esteem. Harnessing the power of your strengths will keep you use those more, instead of focusing always on what you need to improve. Weaknesses are not bad. You may have strengths that could be used in helping you improve those weaknesses. For example: You may not like to write, but you're an avid reader. Reading over time helps you to improve your vocabulary so when you do have to write a paper for school, it may trigger certain words that could be used to increase the fluency of your paper. Think about the strengths God has given you and use them!
2. Achievements anyone?
Take a journal and list all of your achievements over the past year. How many did you come up with? Quite a few, huh? Thinking about your past achievements will help boost your confidence in ways you never have before. Why? You think about what it took to get there. I bet you weren't timid when you got that degree, or soft-spoken when you finally published that book. Were you? NO! You stood proud because it was an achievement that took years to finally get to. But you did it! Confidence will allow you to have many more successes in the future!
3. Psyche yourself out!
I know this sounds a little far-fetched, but really it's not. Telling yourself what you can do and turning away from the thoughts of what you can't do, will definitely keep your confidence in check. It is the ability to see yourself for who you really are: someone with all skills and wisdom and can do all things through Christ who strengthens you! You have the power, the authority, and the knowledge that will help you stand out from the crowd. It's your job to confess that to yourself each and every day. I like what Tony Robbins says:
"Put yourself in a state of mind where you say to yourself, ‘Here is an opportunity for me to celebrate like never before, my own power, my own ability to get myself to do whatever is necessary.'"
Want to go a little further, take this quiz I found on 'How High is Your Self-Esteem' on BeliefNet.com. Come back and share how this quiz and this post impacted your life!
Until next time....